"What you think of me is none of my business." ~ Terry Cole Whittaker
Can we have an honest conversation?
How much do other people's opinions influence what you do or don't do, say or don't say, be or don't be?
I actually think it's way more pervasive than we may think.... especially for women.
We feel more comfortable with our own unhappiness than we do with someone else's... so we don't ask for what we need.
We don't want to hurt someone's feelings... so we don't speak the truth in love without judgement.
We're afraid of being judged about our appearance... so we don't do a Facebook live or don't want to be photographed and choose to remain invisible.
We're afraid someone will judge the way we spend our money... so we don't invest in that mentorship that will really help us get to the next level in our business.
We're afraid of saying or doing something that others may perceive as "wrong"... so we look to someone else's rules to get it "right", rather than being our imperfect, authentic selves.
We're afraid people will think our idea (which we're really excited about) is dumb or will fail... so we never actually pursue it.
We're afraid of what our family will think if we sell our house and move away to the place we'd really love to live... so it remains an unfulfilled dream.
Where has the fear of other people's opinions stopped you?
It's a powerful force.
Napoleon Hill, in Think and Grow Rich wrote...
"The FEAR OF CRITICISM is at the bottom of the destruction of most ideas..."
Here's the truth...
The day we don't care about what other people think, is our new birth day - it's the day we give birth to our true selves.
It doesn't mean that we don't present ourselves well, or that we're not kind or any of that.
It just means that our north star is no longer what other people think.
Rather our north star becomes...
Who's the person I want to be?
Do I want to be the person who went after my wildest dreams, even if they don't turn out exactly the way I imagined?
Do I want to be the person who creates greater connection by risking speaking the truth in love and without judgement?
Do I want to be the one who lifts others up by living into my greatest potential rather than letting others pull me down into mediocrity?
Do I want to be the person who honors the gift of an idea by breathing life into it through action?
Do I want to be the person who sets others free by sharing the imperfect truth of my own life?
You get to decide.
I want to invite you to take an honest inventory of your own life.
Where are other people's opinions, or the fear of criticism or judgement, keeping me from being, doing or saying what I really want to be, do or say?
And then begin to tackle them one-by-one.
Risk saying something you haven't said before.
Risk doing something you've been afraid to do.
Risk being the person you've really wanted to be.
Here's to your new birth day ~ the day you set yourself free from other people's opinions and give birth to your true self.